I walk on eggshells with my thin-skinned spouse

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I’ve been married nearly eight years to a man I dated for 11 years before we married. He’s my best friend and I love him dearly, but we argue terribly all the time over small things relating to behavior, manners and protocols.

Specifically, my husband is in the process of trying to find another job, and he has asked me to help him by critiquing his résumé. Whenever I tell him that the résumé is too long or needs certain criteria, he gets defensive, angry and argumentative.

He carries grudges, and I’m no better, because I feel like I’m always correcting him (or needing to). It’s not just about his résumé. There are other things too, like cleaning our home and running my business.